Late at night, while you
sit in front of your lighted vanity mirror, using a brush to straighten your
hair before going to sleep next to your sound asleep husband, you keep on
thinking how time has passed and how your once passionate relationship has
turned into just another convenience. Or, as a man, as you stand for hours in
front of a computer of television set, instead of spending it with your wife,
you might think of what makes you still stay together. Sure, it’s the kids and
everyday projects and chores that do it, but will that be enough to keep things
lasting forever?
And would you be
interested keeping up being involved in a relationship that means almost
nothing anymore to you? If once a great passion was what united you two, now
all this has been replaced by mere habit. What has gone wrong? And how can you
rekindle the once vivid flame between you, now burnt down?
Scientific studies
conducted by psychologists, as well as real life experience, have concluded
that the number one problem in relationships is related to inexistent or
inappropriate communication. Lack of communication is the main reason why
almost every good relationship fails. Consider this thing the first time you
see your wife or husband again. Listen to your partner’s opinions and desires,
just listen without interrupting him or her. Afterwards, give your own opinion
on the topic, and do it in a civilized manner. A good communication between
spouses is also the signal of a high level of trust and respect in that
marriage (just the things that make a relationship work). And if these two
things become to be less and less present in your relationship throughout time,
it is through communication as well that you can bring them back.
Also, please note that a
solid exchange of ideas in the relationship means, first of all, that honesty
is an essential component. Sometimes, you might have to share with your partner
the things he or she does not want to hear: better doing this than to have him
or her doubting your honesty. Lack of trust is one of the greatest enemies of
any relationship. And once trust is lost or broken, the time to mend the
connection inside the couple might take a very long time. The happiest couples
are the ones where honesty comes just as natural as breathing.
So here you have it,
folks, this is the number one secret to getting your relationship back on the
right track: learn once more to talk to your partner, do it in a respectful and
truthful way, without hiding even the tiniest of truths and good things will
await you. For it is only through communication that you can make your
relationship great again. Stop behaving to the woman or man next to you as you
would to a complete stranger and remember that, once, this was the person you
most loved and cherished in the entire world.
